“I Do”. And so you find yourself in a new world, only by saying these two short words. And who saud teleportation is not possible? But how do you know that you are ready for a 50 years or even more trip of a lifetime? Joining your destiny with the one of your beloved one is not a joke, and it shouldn’t be taken easily. Unfortunately, too many people jump into the marriage without thinking if they can actually live with that.

Here’s a helping questionnaire to ask yourself before starting to run for your wedding dress:

1. What’s my biggest wish from this marriage?
2. How do I feel about myself when I am with my beloved one?
3. What am I bringing to the table?
4. Do I really feel happy inside myself right now, as I’m thinking at the big moment?
5. How do I feel about having children?
6. Do I have healthy financial habits right now?
7. Am I willing and able to share my earnings with my beloved one?
8. Do I feel spiritually connected to my mate?
9. Am I free to be and express myself in this relationship?
10. Have I let go of past hurts and pains, and all bad feelings?
11. Do I take responsibility for the things that happen my life, orI just put them on faith?
12. Are my children (if any) valued and respected by my mate?
13. Can I look into my own eyes (this is what mirrors are for) and tell myself out loud “I love you.”

How did you do with your answers? Are these questions you have truthfully answered for yourself before? Would you feel comfortable sharing your answers with your mate?

The key to a healthy long lasting marriage is to know yourself and to be emotionally grown up, so you can handle the life in common. How can you expect someone to make an informed decision about marrying you if you don’t even know yourself?

A couple is much more different than a single you: others will perceive you two as an entity, they will invite you to go together in many places, they will see you as a whole. Are you ready to be only half of an entity? Are you prepared to enjoy this? Do you want to enter the deeper dimensions of love?

If your answer is unequivocally yes, then go ahead and say “I Do”, and live your married life happily ever after!

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